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Shely’s work is grounded in thoughtful, individualized care. Her process helps clients move through emotional pain, relationship challenges, and personal growth with greater clarity, safety, and self-understanding while honoring the complexity of each person’s inner world.

MEET SHELY RACHEL

certified Sex therapist Pomona ny Shely Rachel Esses; LMFT, C-PST

A thoughtful, integrative approach to healing

Hi, I’m Shely Rachel. I work with individuals and couples age 18+ who want support navigating intimacy, relationships, emotional overwhelm, and personal healing. Clients often tell me I bring warmth, humor, and honesty into the room, helping even difficult conversations feel more human and possible.

I specialize in sex therapy and relational healing, supporting people who feel stuck, disconnected, or uncertain in their intimate lives. My work is rooted in evidence-based therapy and informed by the emotional, physical, and spiritual layers of healing. Whether you are dealing with sexual pain, mismatched desire, past trauma, anxiety, or early marriage challenges, I offer a safe, respectful space for meaningful work.

My approach is integrative and tailored. Depending on the client and the moment, therapy may involve insight-based conversation, somatic and nervous system regulation work, relational frameworks, or spiritually informed reflection rooted in Jewish wisdom.

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Credentials

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, New York

  • Registered Marriage and Family Therapist, Ontario

  • Registered Psychotherapist, Ontario

  • Certified Psychosexual Therapist

  • Gottman Method, Levels 1 & 2

  • Relational Life Therapy, Level 1

  • Trauma-Informed

  • Basic Training in Traditional Chinese Medicine

Modalities

  • Experiential-Holistic Therapy

  • Narrative Therapy

  • Sex Therapy

  • Relational Life Therapy

  • Nonviolent Communication

  • Mindful Self-Compassion

  • Deep Meditation

  • Nervous System Regulation

  • Inner Child / Intergenerational Healing

  • Somatic Experiencing

  • Kabbalistic wisdom-informed healing

Kind words

  • I found Shely’s work to be very inspiring and extremely helpful for those of us struggling with post traumatic difficulties. In today’s world, where events have become increasingly difficult for the human nervous system to digest, and the stressors of life are becoming more intense by the day, as technology is speeding up the rhythm of human experience, relief is not a luxury but a necessity. I’m grateful to Shely for all she’s doing in this regard and wish her tremendous success in this area that is of utmost importance ​

    Yaakov Kirsh,
    Founder of Conscious Judaism
    consciousjudaism.com

  • I am pleased to write a letter of referral for Shely Esses. As a Jewish community leader, Torah educator, and yeshiva teacher for many years in Toronto and beyond, I can personally attest to the high character and professionalism of Shely, her careful halakhic observance, and her extensive knowledge in matters of family purity and family therapy.

    Efraim Palvanov,
    Founder of Mayim Achronim
    mayimachronim.com

  • Shely's presentation touches on an aspect of human sexuality and wellness that rarely gets the attention it deserves- the intersections of sex and spirituality. Judaism offers a plethora of resources that provide frameworks to embrace sex positivity, but resources on these aspects can be elusive. Shely has done a fantastic job of exploring these concepts and making them easily applicable to a wide audience. ​

    Dr. Laura McGuire

  • Shely is amazing! She's helped me learn how to set healthy boundaries and practice self-care. She's helped me not feel shamed or guilty for actions out of my control. She continually provides support, good insight, and encouragement. Shely is attentive and compassionate, while remaining professional. I feel blessed that I found her, as she has helped me tremendously in my growth and healing process.

     A.W

  • Shely's meditations are heart-healing. She guides people with gentleness and brings you deep into your consciousness. I always feel so relaxed, centered, and renewed after a meditation session with shely.

    Natalya Oziel

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